I interviewed a really good friend of mine that recently got married and I asked her what her view was on if they were going to have children or not. She had said that yes she did in fact want children but she wanted to wait a while longer. Her husband is ready to start having them now because he would like a big family. They talk about it quite frequently and so far have decided to hold off for now. They had a long distance relationship for a while so her main point of waiting to have chilren is so they are able to spend time together before bringing a child into the mix. I myself agree with her on that note. I have a little girl that just turned 2 and she is so wonderful but also a handful at the same time. Making the decision to have a chiild is definitely a big one because you and your family will go through a lot of changes. I am always telling her stories of little stunts that my little one has done and she laughs and then comments and says that is how she knows she isn't quite ready for children right now but in time she will be.
Melissa V.
Melissa,
ReplyDeleteI don't have any kids either like your friend and I agree with you both. I think it's best to wait until both of them are ready to make that kind of commitment. I just got married 4 months ago and me and my husband want to wait at least 3 years before we start having kids. I think thats best for us right now because we just have too much on our plates to be caring for a baby. But props to you on caring for a "terrible two!" Lol! :)
I applaud your friend's decision to hold off on having a baby so that they can enjoy being a married couple in the same zip code. I think it helps build a strong foundation for the marriage to stand on when you are able to have the time together. It's a wonderful opportunity to accomplish some couple goals and agree on a family path together. The babies in their future will be very blessed that their parents had that time together. Once the chaos of parenthood kicks in, the "pre-kid" days will be a source of strength to draw from and the parents will be able to hopefully remember how to relate to one another as a couple when the family dynamic changes. Great post, Heather Noe
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